12 Tips to Manage Culture Shock as an Au Pair in China
For au pairs, living with a Chinese host family offers an immersive dive into local customs, from dining styles to social norms. While some practices may feel unfamiliar—such as using umbrellas on sunny days or entering restaurants without waiting for a server—embracing these quirks is part of the adventure.
Understanding Culture Shock: Adjusting to a new culture can feel challenging. Culture shock is common, particularly when first exposed to unfamiliar environments, as in China. Recognizing and preparing for these differences helps smooth the transition.
1. Study Basic Chinese and Keep Learning
Language can be a barrier, but tools like WeChat and translator apps make communication easier. Learning Mandarin through classes or social apps such as Bilibili can also help.
2. Connect with Friends Who’ve Been There
Those who have previously lived or worked in China can offer valuable insights into adapting to local life and avoiding common pitfalls.
3. Align on Expectations with Your Host Family
Chinese host families typically prioritize English tutoring for children over housekeeping. Clarifying these expectations upfront ensures a smoother experience.
4. Understand Cultural Approaches to Time
Chinese families may have a flexible approach to time, so be prepared for spontaneous plans. Discussing preferences for notice on schedule changes can prevent misunderstandings.
5. Learn About “Mianzi” (Face)
Chinese culture values subtlety and respect, often avoiding direct criticism to “save face.” Feedback may be shared indirectly through the agency, so approach feedback with an open mind.
6. Discuss Communication Preferences
Explain your style, especially if you value direct feedback, so families know they can share feedback openly.
7. Set Boundaries for Privacy
Discuss preferences with your host family to ensure everyone respects personal space and privacy, creating a comfortable living arrangement.
8. Understand Child Dynamics
Chinese children, often only children, may be indulged by family members. Knowing this dynamic helps foster patience in your role.
9. Get Clarity on Housework Standards
Ask your family about cleanliness preferences. Offering to help with light chores shows respect, even if they decline your assistance.
10. Stay Connected with Your Agency
Your program coordinator is a go-to for any support you need, from cultural tips to emergency help.
11. Make Local Friends
Meeting new people eases homesickness. Apps like Meetup can connect you with local expats and language groups.
12. Build Bonds with Your Host Family
Participate in family activities and share stories from your own culture. This helps you feel like part of the family, fostering a more rewarding experience.
